Our life seems so normal, so natural. I have no inclination to label us or it. I feel as though questions about how our children learn like this are as if someone is asking us how we eat or breathe.
We just are.
But I remember the uncertainty when we began. I do. The fear that our children would be “left behind” somehow, not know what others their age knew.
I have realised now how there is a whole set of unwritten milestones in our culture for children.
Sleeping through the night, being weaned, learning to talk, walk, ride a bike, swim, read, write….From birth there is, at times, a competitiveness about keeping up with the pack.
Now I feel such a freedom from not even being in the pack let alone trying to live by it’s code of conduct..
Realising too that our children will set their own pace, reach their own milestones when they are ready. Most parents can cope with a baby not sitting or walking until months after it’s peers, so why not reading at 4yrs or at 9yrs instead of 5?
I have seen children learn so easily and naturally when they are ready – be it 4 years or 14.
I just relish seeing how happy children are in themselves and with their lives when they are left to do things at their own pace.
There is plenty said in spiritual literature about going with the flow, not resisting life. I have felt strongly that from birth my kids knew what they needed and all I had to do was to meet their needs and help them when required.
And still it goes on. There is no difference to a 2 year old saying they do not want to wear something/eat something/ do something to a 12 year old knowing their own mind about what they need to do.
Going with the flow, with their flow, the path of least resistance is always the happier route and naturally the best one to take.
There is still a lingering philosophy in our culture that life is hard, a struggle, nothing is acheived without pain, hard work, sacrifice…
Thankfully the emerging philosophy of many is that life is a joy.
Life should be fun.
That life should be filled doing the things that light your fire, your passions, the things that make you zing.
This is the very basis of what we do.
How do you teach your children to follow their bliss….? Let them follow it from birth! Then they don’t have to spend their adult lives trying to find out who they are, what they enjoy and what makes them tick.
The milestones are there still, but they are set by the kids themselves, not imposed by an outside authority.
So here we are following our bliss….at 10.30pm! The boys hard out wrestling for 2 hours, gloves on, martial arts moves discussed and practised.
Wayne playing the guitar while the boys roll around, dicussions of evolution interspersed with full on fighting…..
Gotta love the fact we don’t have to get up and make school lunches at 7am…
(ooops ,sorry Wayne!)